Monday, June 25, 2012

What are you really saying?

"I gotta get a job" or "I just want a good paying job" is a phrase that is all too common,especially with the economy in dire straits. However, this is not about the economy, it is about your mindset. Often our words fail to match our true desires; this can be for several reasons. Fear,lack of belief, and feelings of inadequacy can all be the culprit. Often we are vague enough to cover all possibilities in case of failure. In order to achieve greatness in anything, a certain level of focus is required so that we can concentrate on that which is necessary. Do you enter a restaurant and say; "I would like some food"? Your efforts to eat will be tedious and unresolved unless you choose an item! When we were children our goals were so explicit and clear, "I want to be a fireman" or "I want to be a doctor." Somewhere via life`s ups and downs, that specificity faded for most of us and turned into " I just want a decent job." Let me clarify and preface by saying that there is nothing wrong with speaking in that manner, if that is what you wish, but you do yourself a disservice and the society that would benefit by not going after your dreams. Notice the generality and generic sound of "I have to get a job" or "I have to get an education." These statements are so broad that they mean almost nothing, and you cannot focus. "I want to go to college" is not enough, you must choose a school, correct? This indecisiveness leads us to the very place we do not wish to go, failure and frustration. It is easy to see the fallacy of this type of thinking in the examples I used but this is exactly the type of language and idea patterns that control many of our lives. Have you ever worked at a job that you hated? Of course! Part of the reason for this is that we never wanted the "job" in the first place, what we wanted was the income to meet a need or desire at the time. We trade misery for cash, this is what happens when you say "I need a job," you get exactly that. As you think, so shall you be. This can be applied to relationships also. You get lonely and look for a "boy friend" or "girl friend."The problem is that you settle at that, and get in a bad relationship. Be specific, and don`t be afraid. If you want certain qualities, don`t settle, you will get it.  Remember, if you cannot focus, you can not succeed. It is not enough to say "I want to start a business." That is the first step; you must decide exactly what type of business it will be. Only then you can concentrate on it. So now if you are on the job hunt; here is how to apply this. Start with what you want to do the most! So if you wish to be a construction manager, you will be able to concentrate on that one field intensely. This is not guaranteeing success, for instance you may have to find another profession. However, by being specific you will achieve the level of focus necessary to succeed. The idea is not  to trivialize ourselves or lower our self worth, regardless of outward circumstances. When you speak in generalities, the message conveyed is that it does not matter where you work or what you do, you are not that important, and so on. This is not a winning mindset, you are important, what you do is important, your dream is important. Let your words and thoughts be consistent, if you want money don`t say you want a job. There is a difference. You have all heard of the old saying "Do what you love and you`ll never work a day in your life."Specificity seems to be a major rule for succeeding. " I want to be an astronaut" is more powerful than "I want to be somebody."  The moral of the story is to speak and think the same thing! Eat,sleep, and breath your desired outcome until it has run its course. If it ends favorably,fantastic! If not focus on the next thing and so on. You will be unstoppable. 

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